Cry Me a River

Answering Questions About Sex

Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:04:57 GMT

Since I started speaking in 1992, it seems that everyone wants to take me aside and ask me questions about sex. It doesn't matter where I am, from the office of the IRS (Internal Revenue Service) to the Archdiocese of Paterson, N.J.; people have questions about sex, love, relationships, body image and plumbing. My mailbox is full of questions every day. After lectures I often find little slips of paper with inquires hastily scribbled out.

I was thinking about how I came to know so much about sex. I know about sexual wounding after surviving several sexual assaults, some brutal, while others were more emotionally devastating.

Is Candid Safer Sex Education Obscene?

Wed, 5 Aug 2009 18:41:10 GMT

I woke up this morning and discovered an e-mail from YouTube in my inbox. They have banned one of my videos! I don't know what it is about me, but I seem to offend people with what I think is educational and entertaining information.

The said video, which you can view below, describes how to put a condom on with your mouth. It is done in a very direct and candid manner, but is in no way obscene. I was indicted in 1996 by the district attorney of New Jersey for doing the same thing at Hillsborough High School. (I had permission and I was using a demonstration penis, not a student) In the end, they had to drop all charges because it was not against the law to educate. It did not stop me from being banned from high schools for about a decade.

Panama Adventure

Wed, 1 Jul 2009 18:31:04 GMT

Since I found out I was HIV positive, my whole life went into high gear. I had things to do before the final goodbye. Eighteen years passed without a vacation. I work seven days a week, 10 to 12 hours a day on the books, articles, shows, lectures, art and all the details to keep it running. When I am not in the office, I am on the road.

Body Shape and HIV

Wed, 24 Jun 2009 17:59:28 GMT

The first thing I did after I found out I was HIV positive was eat. I decided that if I was going to die, I was going to die fat. Fuck 'em, I thought; let 'em buy an extra large coffin. For the first time in my life, I let myself eat without recrimination.

Surviving HIV

Wed, 17 Jun 2009 03:01:58 GMT

You know how people like Tony Robbins will ask, "What if you had only six months left to live? Are you satisfied with the direction of your life? Are you living your dreams?" After you are diagnosed with HIV, these thoughts often come up as well.